No Prompt Necessary

Tell me about it. No, I’m serious tell me all about it. I’d love to hear it. And I’d love to help. Let me carry this for you, let me help you understand why you reacted this way. Let’s use gentle words and “I feel” statements and let’s figure out some tools we can have on hand to regulate our emotions better. Why don’t we name that trigger? Why don’t we pull that trigger? Why don’t we see what childhood memory or infantile wish is expressing itself through that trigger. Why don’t we do something about it. Hey, I have an idea, maybe your mom can’t take accountability for bad behavior, and maybe that’s why you get so defensive when someone tells you that you hurt them. Or, wait, here’s another one, maybe you sabotage your life with recurring patterns and behaviors because subconsciously you don’t believe you deserve happiness, or stability. Oh no, I didn’t mean to upset you, do you want a hug? I can get you a coffee when I come by tomorrow, or send you some money for that red velvet cupcake you love. Let’s have a self-care night we can light candles and use eucalyptus shower steamers and you can cry in my arms and I’ll pet your head and tell you how strong you are. Wait stop yelling at her, let’s take a walk around the neighborhood and tell me why you feel so mad. Ok I hear you, how about next time you feel this way, try to remove yourself from the situation so as to not exacerbate it further. Yes, I understand it’s hard. Oh your dad used to yell at you? I’m so sorry to hear that, tell me about it.